Breaking Up With Wrong Senior Man
In the course of your dating senior men experience you will invariably draw attention from Old Mr. Wrong. You may be dating someone who seemed attractive at first, but who turned out to be boring, irritating, or worse. Or maybe your interest in someone nice has simply waned. In any case, you need to put an end to his advances.
Most senior guys know when they are being furloughed. You don’t return their emails? They get it and they’re gone. But you may get stuck with someone who can’t accept rejection and has to let you know how awfully you’ve behaved.
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Rejectee type 1 – You Can’t Fire Me Because I Quit
This man can’t believe you’re not into him. He posted a sexy on-line photo and a brilliantly crafted profile; he has treated you very well. Expect a bunch of whiny emails suggesting that just as he has been willing to settle, you should too. In the final email he will directly question your judgment and even your virtue.
Rejectee type 2 – You’re Too Much for Me Anyway
This guy was thrilled when you answered his on line dating flirt and has been living on borrowed time since. He doesn’t know what he’d do with you if he won you, anyway. He will obligingly fade away, though he may favor you with a chivalrous goodbye, such as, “I wish you the best of luck in your search. I’m sure you’ll make some guy very happy.” He is secretly relieved, so he can afford to be magnanimous.
Rejectee type 3 –You Don’t Really Mean It
Your email inbox will now begin filling up with inspirational material about finding oneself, about how friendships deepen as they mature, about how senior men and senior women don’t have a lot of time to waste and should seize the moment.
Rejectee type 4 – I’ll Get You For This
There is never a sign this man could be dangerous until you try to lose him. He will threaten you implicitly by raging like a maniac, or more subtly by insinuating retaliatory action. If he knows where you live, you may want to inform a neighbor, your siblings, your children, your boss, the police, or all of these. Sometimes it’s about money – he made an investment and it didn’t pay off. Sometimes it’s about insecurity – he revealed his weak side to you. Sometimes it’s about love – he adores you and wants you. Sometimes (usually) it’s about pride and breaking a trust.
Do not yield to emotional blackmail. Do not waffle. Cut off all contact – no emails, phone calls, texts, no meetings at Starbucks to “explain.” If he continues to threaten reprisal, tell him you are filing his name with the police, and then do just that.